Karen Monroy

I’ve recently encountered two different drive-by bashings.

You know, you’re cruising along the highway of life, pretty much minding your own business, wishing others all the best and wham! Someone comes unglued-all over you.

If you are perceptive, you’ll get the energy no matter how much they dress it up in the moment. I’m going to surmise that if you are reading what I write, you also are capable of getting it has nothing to do with you. They need a release and timing was such that you were their chosen release.

Afterward, they are mortified by their behavior. Afterward, they even go so far as to try to delete the evidence and make amends. Afterward, they apologize like crazy.

There’s something I want you to consider though: you can accept an apology and reject the premise of it.

If you have a strong practice, you know the importance of the Spiritual Principle of Clarity.  There is no way to merge with muddy water and not muddy your water too.  I encourage you to test this: get a glass of clean water, then put only two drops of muddy water into it. Now drink it.

We all know you didn’t drink the water. We all know why. If you are tempted to trot out  “a lotus flower blooms in muddy water” chant, let me point out you are misunderstanding.

You’ll muddy your own water enough, and yes you have to bloom in it anyway. Give tacit permission for another to muddy your water, it’s a recipe for drama and leaking energy. That is the point of Clarity: choosing what you want in your energetic life and what doesn’t work for you.

Both drive by bashers are sorry for their behavior and both claim confusion about why they acted they way they did.

Their confusion is simply not true. They acted the way they did because they give themselves permission to. Furthermore, I did both of them the favor of accepting their apology and rejecting their premise of confusion.

I want you to let that sink in. We act they way we do because we give our-self permission to. It’s not a mistake.

In the moment you want to come unglued, you can choose not to. Egos scream, “It’s not easy!!!” To this I say: grow up. It’s the most compassionate response possible because you are not here to be an ego, or to practice ego. You are here to grow up and into your Spirit. I will not pretend you are broken and trapped in the blanket of limitation you draw around yourself. God knows I do not want some else to buy into any limitation my ego might come up with.

Coming unglued in these drive-bys was a ‘reorganizing’ of their stress and it was an acceptable intention to push the stress out onto another for the short-term gain in the release. It’s an ego choice. Ego’s always choose “mini-me” and claim “I couldn’t help it.”

It’s quite clear.

Pretending they are confused is layering avoidance on top of the causal level.

Masochistic spirituality would have you agree with how ‘broken’ everyone is. To this I have the only sane answer possible, “so what?” We are all as broken as we choose to be. It’s ugly what we have allowed to transpire with the notion we are all poor helpless sinners. We all ‘get mad’ and that is never reason enough for us to give our-self permission to behave any way we choose.

We have hunger in the world because we accept it. We have war because we accept it. We have unkindness because we accept it.

Stop accepting the “I can’t help it, I was just (fill in the blank).” Stop accepting it in others and in yourself.

Please don’t get your ego into this and hear what I am saying as “push against’ these things, join a cause and rant about how grossly unfair earth school is.

I’m saying eliminate the permission you give yourself to behave this way and get it out of your mind and it won’t exist in the world.

Ego’s do not like it when a bar is held high for the Spirit.  That’s how ego are. But don’t pretend for a moment you are not Clear about your power of choice. It’s a steep slippery slope to victim from that untenable position.

To each of these adults I whole-heartedly accepted their apology.

I also did them the kindness of being Clear. There is no mystery to why they came unglued, and I simply will not allow my waters to be muddied by another-I can do that all by myself thank you very much.

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I have never met a ‘uncreative’ person-only a person who has not yet found a way to express their creativity. I’m speaking of Creativity that comes from Spirit. Many times Creativity is expressed by an artist or writer-it is in each one of us, regardless of our roles as business person or mother or artist.

‘Creativity’ is far superior to learned ‘skills’ when is comes to getting any goal accomplished-and when it comes to being happy.

Skills can answer a question with the limited knowledge data-base in the brain. It is a specific learned way of doing something. What makes skills problematic: once we get proficient with a skill: we go to sleep! That’s right, we go on ‘auto pilot’. Natural brain functioning takes over, and we will repeat the same skill many times, regardless of input that things have changed and it isn’t working any more. (yes we eventually ‘get-it’ but creative folks don’t suffer this ‘get-it’)

Test this out for yourself: when you know how to cook a specific recipe do you ever make is differently? Nope. We get tired of it and stop making it and probably don’t realize why! What about your route to work? Same one every day? Even if construction commences on your route?

Creativity on the other hand is not limited to what is known. In fact it loves the play of energy with the unknown influence.

Creativity is a process that doesn’t need a template, it is given space. Space to manifest, play, experiment, explore, test, measure, and transform the appearance of ‘what is’ into the new idea of what ‘could be’.

It’s a myth that Creative folks are airheads. It’s a myth that skill folks are boring brainiacs. If you have a choice (and you do) about where to invest your time-do it learning to harness and express your Creativity.

You don’t need another formula, another book on ‘how’. Pick one thing you’d like to do. Now list as many different ways as you can to do that one thing. Work at the list and come back to it until you have dozens of ideas. You’ll notice at first it’s hard—but then like popcorn – you’ll have several kernels to write down.

Try this for every part of your life-relationships, work, health, finances—and notice where you have an easier time listing possible means to the way.

What does this have to do with the energy of money? I’m glad you asked!

Here are two ways this manifests:

1:You have enough money to fit your situation and have gone on auto pilot, so when things change you will keep trying the same ‘old’ way. Really common when folks retire they run out of money because things changed and they didn’t.

2: You are so stuck in the amount/sum skill set, when shopping around for a good or service or a bill is due and you don’t see the ‘money’ in your account-you don’t think of other ways to address the bill! You only know how to look at the amount of money due. Trade/barter/modification do not occur to you.

Did you know that 80% of the people who qualify for a modification of their mortgage or credit cards have not applied? Yup. They are stuck looking for the money in the amount/sum skill set.

Did you know about 50% of people who owe taxes because they do not have the money-are actually over paying?

Of course you did-you are a Creative person.

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At the end of the hard paved freeway of the intellect begins the soft sandy road of the heart. Intellect loves speed. Addiction to information, events-constantly buzzing -the tornado of the mind is never at rest. The heart loves essence; being-ness and its treasures can only be discovered along the forgiving and supple path of equanimity.

Being creatures of habit, we try the same vehicle, the same wheels on the sandy road to equanimity that functioned on the hard road. No surprise it doesn’t work.

Consider for a moment the personal and global issues at hand in your life. You are stuck, I’m stuck, we are all stuck at one level or another. Consider further the nature of the collective quagmire. If we are so smart we wouldn’t be experiencing financial or ecological crisis. We’d see the inevitability of our folly and make different choices.

We’ve run out of hard freeway. Yet, like stubborn school boys, some of us want to keep racing the same tired vehicles down the hard freeway of the addicted intellect-expecting when hits another dead end to deploy the U-turn as a solution.

Of course that leaves us still on the hard freeway.

Yes, there is a growing collective of individuals who see the harm. The quixotic grab is their response: blame, repent, blame again, and repent some more. It is producing nothing new; it’s a different form of a u-turn.

Same hard freeway of addiction to intellect.

Still there is another collective of individuals who have hit the soft sandy road of equanimity to the heart and have traction. Being called back to the hard freeway is utterly unattractive-most of the time.

Sometimes I feel the hard road and soft road parallel one another in my life. It seems easy to jump back on the freeway, and soon there after I am road kill. I’ve been hoping for some time the roads will widen enough to ease my burden of temptation to make the jump. I fully grasp the roads won’t widen of their own accord. The Spiritual Alchemy is clearly an inside job. It doesn’t stop me from wishing it other wise.

My comfort, and I offer it to you, is in recognizing every truth the intellect can produce is relative. While every Truth my heart illuminates never fails.

I have never loved someone and had bad come from it.

I have hated, been right in the truth of what I hate and have nothing good come from it.

I am not; you are not, the arbiters of what is possible. We are not intellectually capable, as this is the territory of the heart.

In equanimity we see the power of accountability. Our accountability-not another’s. We don’t like the financial crisis, yet we rely for our information upon those who foist the rotted carcass of fear at our feet for our investing.  We deplore the Gulf oil spill, but have in our home the majority of products made from petroleum.

The intellect would have you donate money to help the clean up but not reduce your use of plastic, gas or other petroleum products. The intellect would have you reading ‘the new rules of money’ looking for some secret to exempt you from the capricious winds of the market. Have you noticed how the intellect always has you looking, but never finding a lasting solution?

As we awaken, so do the others around us. As we speak the softness of our heart, its enchanted melody beckons others.

Have heart. In the end, it’s the only Sustainable solution. Have Heart in exactly the situation you face at this moment. Get off the hard addicted road of your intellect. Truly enter the forgiving supple path of the Heart. Equanimity blooms like a flower.  The Arbiter of what is possible commences accountability and requires nothing from you other than you not interfere with the plan.

Take the path of the Heart.

Take the path of the Heart.

Take the path of the Heart.