I’ve recently encountered two different drive-by bashings.
You know, you’re cruising along the highway of life, pretty much minding your own business, wishing others all the best and wham! Someone comes unglued-all over you.
If you are perceptive, you’ll get the energy no matter how much they dress it up in the moment. I’m going to surmise that if you are reading what I write, you also are capable of getting it has nothing to do with you. They need a release and timing was such that you were their chosen release.
Afterward, they are mortified by their behavior. Afterward, they even go so far as to try to delete the evidence and make amends. Afterward, they apologize like crazy.
There’s something I want you to consider though: you can accept an apology and reject the premise of it.
If you have a strong practice, you know the importance of the Spiritual Principle of Clarity. There is no way to merge with muddy water and not muddy your water too. I encourage you to test this: get a glass of clean water, then put only two drops of muddy water into it. Now drink it.
We all know you didn’t drink the water. We all know why. If you are tempted to trot out “a lotus flower blooms in muddy water” chant, let me point out you are misunderstanding.
You’ll muddy your own water enough, and yes you have to bloom in it anyway. Give tacit permission for another to muddy your water, it’s a recipe for drama and leaking energy. That is the point of Clarity: choosing what you want in your energetic life and what doesn’t work for you.
Both drive by bashers are sorry for their behavior and both claim confusion about why they acted they way they did.
Their confusion is simply not true. They acted the way they did because they give themselves permission to. Furthermore, I did both of them the favor of accepting their apology and rejecting their premise of confusion.
I want you to let that sink in. We act they way we do because we give our-self permission to. It’s not a mistake.
In the moment you want to come unglued, you can choose not to. Egos scream, “It’s not easy!!!” To this I say: grow up. It’s the most compassionate response possible because you are not here to be an ego, or to practice ego. You are here to grow up and into your Spirit. I will not pretend you are broken and trapped in the blanket of limitation you draw around yourself. God knows I do not want some else to buy into any limitation my ego might come up with.
Coming unglued in these drive-bys was a ‘reorganizing’ of their stress and it was an acceptable intention to push the stress out onto another for the short-term gain in the release. It’s an ego choice. Ego’s always choose “mini-me” and claim “I couldn’t help it.”
It’s quite clear.
Pretending they are confused is layering avoidance on top of the causal level.
Masochistic spirituality would have you agree with how ‘broken’ everyone is. To this I have the only sane answer possible, “so what?” We are all as broken as we choose to be. It’s ugly what we have allowed to transpire with the notion we are all poor helpless sinners. We all ‘get mad’ and that is never reason enough for us to give our-self permission to behave any way we choose.
We have hunger in the world because we accept it. We have war because we accept it. We have unkindness because we accept it.
Stop accepting the “I can’t help it, I was just (fill in the blank).” Stop accepting it in others and in yourself.
Please don’t get your ego into this and hear what I am saying as “push against’ these things, join a cause and rant about how grossly unfair earth school is.
I’m saying eliminate the permission you give yourself to behave this way and get it out of your mind and it won’t exist in the world.
Ego’s do not like it when a bar is held high for the Spirit. That’s how ego are. But don’t pretend for a moment you are not Clear about your power of choice. It’s a steep slippery slope to victim from that untenable position.
To each of these adults I whole-heartedly accepted their apology.
I also did them the kindness of being Clear. There is no mystery to why they came unglued, and I simply will not allow my waters to be muddied by another-I can do that all by myself thank you very much.
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