I hope you enjoy this article and
find it helpful.
You may be expecting me to write
about the holidays. Don't worry, I'll get to them! If you
are new to my writing, allow me to clue you in: my method is to use the
back door, so to speak, to your Right Mind.
may appear as if I meander in my writing, but see if you don't learn
something you wouldn't have otherwise.
Ego minds have a story. (FYI: if
you were born, you have an ego mind). This "story"
has a life, a voice of its own. You could put the following nouns in
front of story: money, health, relationship, and family--and be tempted
believe that each is a "different" story, separate from the other
stories. All of our stories are the same. Yes, the form is
are all about our past.
you to write down your money story. Now or later, but take
few moments to actually do it! What does money mean to you? How do you
relate to money? How do you find yourself thinking of money? Do you
money? Just for now, or for the future? Don't know? What about fear and
money? Sometimes? Mostly? Frustrated?
work with clients on their story. I show them how the form of the story
appears different in various parts of their life, but is all connected
same source in their ego mind.
is wrong with having a story? It only reflects the
smaller part of you--the part that is identified with the roles or jobs
that you do, or things that you have. It is not in fact, the Real
You. Our entire story is about what happened in our past.
In other words, it isn't happening NOW!
past isn't a place you can inhabit anywhere except in your mind--but
nonetheless we keep trying to visit our past via memories. Sometimes we
our selves into the fearful future. Mentally visiting the past or
future--prevents us from being here in the present moment. It
the present moment, and only the present moment, that we can experience
the essence of Who We Really
and Who We Have Come Here To Be.
Our story separates us
that and ultimately from enjoyment, prosperity, peace and happiness.
Do you think you are in the
present moment--NOW? Let me ask you
this: how do you test this is true? Really, what way do you have of
minds create stories about every aspect of life--money
stories, health stories, relationship stories, family stories....
Choose the door to your good or choose the door
to your better
When our preference for
situations, circumstances, or relationships doesn't materialize in
the way we thought they should, we become disillusioned. We can
either begin another page in the story; or realize the upside of the disillusionment.
Disillusionment is born out of attachment to an outcome, and wanting
things being a
certain way. In our story, it is "good" to have things be the way we
want them to be. We believe our happiness hinges upon our idea of what
looks like. Liking our story is where we let our "good" get in the way
of our better. I'll say that again: We
let our good get in the way
of our better.
Tom has been a
3 years. He runs his own business, loves it, and has created a joyous
life. Like those of us who practice Sustainable
Prosperity, Tom isn't sucked into "how bad this economy
is": he doesn't make it part of his story. Tom also uses the tools I
have shown him and practices awareness to detect a story.
What you should really know about
Tom: 3 years ago he was laid off from his job of 26 years.
Nothing was to his liking, the chess pieces of his life had been
moved-without his consent and he was understandably angry. So Tom's ego
mind did what
ego's do: made a story about what "good" would look like. His "good
story" was getting a new job that hopefully paid as much as the old
job, had a
reasonable commute, and his not needing to tell his kids about the job
Tom was okay with his old job. It
wasn't great and it wasn't terrible. When I did a money
assessment and a value assessment with him, I could see the job
that he lost was not supporting him or his family in living the
desired. Tom showed me what he loved to do. I could see the love,
talent and the passion he had for it. Why then you may wonder, was he
another job just like the one he had lost? Yes, you guessed it--because
it was what his story said would be "good".
did Tom make the leap from that old "good" story to the life
he loves today? He stopped mixing his desire for money with the
other toxic thoughts that defeat the purpose of money in your life.
I have heard some folks say that
desire is wrong and that it creates selfishness and the
like. While that can happen for untrained minds, I am not going to tell
you desire is wrong. In fact, it is powerful! When used to support the
creation of your life in its pure form, desire is like adding rocket
fuel to the gas tank of your life.
Unfortunately, just like Tom was
doing, we mix this rocket fuel of desire with other
ingredients that are toxic and are in opposition to our desire. So what
are some of these other ingredients?
*Thinking we know
something could be or should be
*Using our story
telling past as a guide and decision maker in the present
future with our story-telling past
Let me help you bust yourself
When was the last time you were right about
your projection of how things were going to turn out? Ummmm, never?
Today, are you where you thought you'd be 5 years ago, or even 2 years
at your life for a moment. How'd you get here?
Claire is a
mom and artist. She is positive that her children and husband do not
support her. While that is true on one level; she behaves in ways that
them from supporting her--and then Claire sees the self-fulfilling
prophecy come true. Anyone outside of her mind can see how she makes
happen, and can read her "story". Claire tells her story, and the story
always has the same underlying misery of invalidation,
disempowerment and victimhood. Claire is a genuinely nice person. She
is respectful, intelligent and I suspect the art she makes now is but a
of what she could create were she standing in her own glory.
I asked Claire who she would be if
she let that story go. If she didn't
see herself as marginalized, disrespected, and undervalued.
Like anyone else who has been
asked to relinquish the very thing they are so attached to,
Claire said she had no idea. She had not ever thought about it. Who she
would be without that agony? What a concept! Claire began to
brainstorm out loud, excitedly, about what she would be doing, and how
different her life would look--for about 15 seconds. Then, the ego mind
jumps up and says 'it could never happen" asserting that "the others
will never let me." That is okay. Those 15
seconds of desire have already done its job. Claire will never be the
same, slowly or quickly that part of her - the desire to be in harmony
with creativity, the desire to be in alignment with what feels right
and true and good can never be stamped out.
The Universal DNA is always one of
growth and is always
pushing us on to our greater good. Our way of seeing things never
changes this fact. Our willingness is all the Universe requires. We
have to have a plan or know how it will be done--we just need to say "Yes! " Tom said
"Yes" and then the plan was made. Claire is working on her "Yes".
I ask myself what I am willing
to say "yes" to this holiday season. I ask
you to ask the same question of yourself.
|There is a power to this time of year.
Regardless of your
practice, tradition, or religion; it is palpable. Peace is considered
where it was not otherwise. Forgiveness is given where it had been with
Healing is allowed where there was injury or pain. We allow our Right
Minds those 15 seconds of desire and of imagining who we would be
limiting beliefs that some person, circumstance or situation has the
power to hold us back.
You may be thinking, "Yea, but she
doesn't know what is going on in my
life." Trust me when I say that while the details may be uniquely
yours, I do know. Like all of you, I have enough stories about my
have told them, again and again. I practice giving up my story because
I got sick of my story. (I will go so far as to say that for some of my
readers, your story makes you sick). Thank you, God, for helping
me to be sick of my story.
When I am tempted to my story, or
cling to my story, it doesn't last too long. That
is the gift of disillusionment--
knowing that I have a desire to
be who I really am.
Gratefully, I set my story aside
because I know it isn't real at the deepest level
and that it only serves to keep me limited. Some stories I am tempted
to embrace more often--like the one about being a parent of a child who
multiply handicapped which limits him, me, and our whole family. I got
tired of a major part of that story and took him to Europe for two
nanny and no exit strategy!
My egoic mind created tons of
mental chatter about "what if" this happened, or
that. The worst was "what if he got sick?" That one almost makes me
stop breathing. Of course, the story embellishes to not being able
to find a doctor or hospital, and worse yet, none of the medicine he'd
need would be available. To top it all off, everyone would be looking
me like I am a crazy woman (which I would be!)
Guess what? We had such
a blast! Who knew he loved Gaudi and Dali? So
we are going back, again and again. Thank you, God, for the desire to
give up that story!
Guess what else? He did get sick!
And you know what? The doctor came to the hotel. And you
know what else? It was easy to get the medicine he needed. Plus
it came in a form that was the easiest to give my son that I had ever
experienced!! Two days later-- we were on the train to Valencia--just
us, no story! We already had enough bags to cart around.
In the Archetypal construct of our
collective unconscious, there are powerful stories for us
to know and hear again and again. These Archetypal stories are our
story, and we should take them personally. I am not speaking
religion here, I am speaking metaphysically. (Meta from the Greek
meaning: beyond or after, and physical meaning: what you can see,
touch, hear and
How is the two-thousand year old
story of a baby born to meager and humble circumstances,
who, as an adult, influences humanity like our story? How is the story
of lamps that remain lit well beyond the time the oil has run out like
They are all stories of illusion.
The story is never the story we think it is. What
we see happening with our physical senses is morphed and distorted when
it becomes part of our story. At Jesus birth, no one would have bet two
denarius on the scope of his influence with humanity.
No one would have given a shekel for those lamps to continue burning.
After all, there is
only “so much” of something and then—it is gone:
Wrong! Something bigger and far
better is on the other side of the illusion. You’re
better. But we are so focused on our 'good' in the
illusion we fall asleep to the possibility of our better.
I’ll repeat that: we are so busy
trying to make our good happen that we miss our better.
From a client:
When we spoke last I said something about your being good at
connecting the dots for people...actually what you excel at doing is
showing them the dots they don't see so they can connect them.
If you did write down your money
story, I hope my meandering was able to show you your
dots: see some of your story, defined as “good”, or
“should” that is standing in the way of your better.
Are you resisting letting go
of what you think is your 'good?' Of being
disillusioned because things are not the way they 'should' be?
Are people not
acting like you want them to?
Is something happening
in your life that you want to be
If you are getting sick of
your story: good for you!
you are still trying to make your good happen: you are missing your
If you are willing to accept what is, knowing that it will lead to your
better if you allow it: you are on your way to discovering the
My “Yes” this holiday
season is to the present moment--whatever it is. Happy
folks, sad folks, whiny folks. Great food, okay food, fat food. You get
my drift—no pages added to the story.
Gift yourself with
Be aware of your story. Let the
energy of the season lift you above and beyond your story.
However you celebrate this time of
May you relinquish
May you be blessed
A ZEN student walked in to
see the master. Sitting down, he blurted out, "There's
something terribly wrong with me!"
The master looked at him and
asked, "What is so wrong?"
The student responded, "I think
I'm a dog".
To that the master responded, "And
how long have you thought that?"
The student replied, "Ever since I
was a puppy."
This teaching tells us to carefully watch what we believe to be true.
Dr. Karen Monroy holds a PhD. in
psychology, and a Masters Degree in Economics and Business.
"I teach, write, and guide clients
to Sustainable Prosperity." says Dr.
Monroy, who is a pioneer in the field of Spiritual Psychology, and
Dr. Monroy explains to clients the
structure of their minds--from a neurological,
psychological and spiritual perspective clients learn to work WITH
their own nature, not AGAINST their nature.
Dr. Monroy teaches Money IQ
Skills, Money EQ skills and a spiritual basis for moving
through the world of form. Dr. Monroy believes all of us learn
about these concepts in the world of form (or Earth School as she calls
one aspect of our spiritual path.
Dr. Monroy is also the author of
two upcoming books: Mommy, What is
Rich?, and Expanding your Money IQ-- Spiritual
and Emotional Intelligence for Earth School.
more about Karen at her website: www.KarenMonroy.com
by David R. Hawkins
This is a book that everyone
should read, and at least once a year.
Every thought and emotion has a corresponding "weight" or "loft" that
either keeps you stuck or lifts you to where you want to go. If you are
in life now--all the more reason to tackle these concepts. They are
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At Home in the Muddy
Water: A Guide to Finding Peace Within Everyday
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If you would like to work more on your story, this book is all about
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learning how to meditate in the Zen tradition, it is very helpful to
know the concept of a Koan. In Zen, it is a question that the mind can
answer--only the heart.
to Our Senses
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I think this is one of Jon's best books. Jon has dedicated himself to
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Economics in One
by Henry Hazlitt
I first saw Henry guest lecture at
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was ahead of his time--way ahead.
I have always been fascinated, given the accuracy of his views, more
folks have not "consulted" him. The reasoning is simple. He isn't for
system and the bankers--the ones with the money and the power. He is
for the "little guy" or anyone who doesn't have a net worth of 50M or
There was a time in modern medicine when you did not question
your doctor. They were on a pedestal and knew it all. Thankfully, as
more folks have had to interact with health care and their doctor's
this has changed. Doctor's even pioneer the power of prayer in medicine
Dorsey) and value the patient support groups as much as the
prescription they give the patient. Hazlitt is the other voice in
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Karen and her son without their limiting story
Three frogs are sitting on a lilly
pad. Two decide to jump how many are left?
Deciding to jump and jumping are
two different things.
There is no such thing as a faithless person. We have faith in the
cancer. We have faith in the bad economy. Have you ever thought to
Faith, not your fear?
Realizing you always have faith in something, why not choose
consciously where to put your faith? Why not have faith that nothing
bad ever lasts
forever? Why not have faith that God is bigger than your problems? Why
not build that faith muscle?