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Bring Creativity to Your Happiness

Wednesday, July 14th, 2010

I have never met a ‘uncreative’ person-only a person who has not yet found a way to express their creativity. I’m speaking of Creativity that comes from Spirit. Many times Creativity is expressed by an artist or writer-it is in each one of us, regardless of our roles as business person or mother or artist.

‘Creativity’ is far superior to learned ’skills’ when is comes to getting any goal accomplished-and when it comes to being happy.

Skills can answer a question with the limited knowledge data-base in the brain. It is a specific learned way of doing something. What makes skills problematic: once we get proficient with a skill: we go to sleep! That’s right, we go on ‘auto pilot’. Natural brain functioning takes over, and we will repeat the same skill many times, regardless of input that things have changed and it isn’t working any more. (yes we eventually ‘get-it’ but creative folks don’t suffer this ‘get-it’)

Test this out for yourself: when you know how to cook a specific recipe do you ever make is differently? Nope. We get tired of it and stop making it and probably don’t realize why! What about your route to work? Same one every day? Even if construction commences on your route?

Creativity on the other hand is not limited to what is known. In fact it loves the play of energy with the unknown influence.

Creativity is a process that doesn’t need a template, it is given space. Space to manifest, play, experiment, explore, test, measure, and transform the appearance of ‘what is’ into the new idea of what ‘could be’.

It’s a myth that Creative folks are airheads. It’s a myth that skill folks are boring brainiacs. If you have a choice (and you do) about where to invest your time-do it learning to harness and express your Creativity.

You don’t need another formula, another book on ‘how’. Pick one thing you’d like to do. Now list as many different ways as you can to do that one thing. Work at the list and come back to it until you have dozens of ideas. You’ll notice at first it’s hard—but then like popcorn – you’ll have several kernels to write down.

Try this for every part of your life-relationships, work, health, finances—and notice where you have an easier time listing possible means to the way.

What does this have to do with the energy of money? I’m glad you asked!

Here are two ways this manifests:

1:You have enough money to fit your situation and have gone on auto pilot, so when things change you will keep trying the same ‘old’ way. Really common when folks retire they run out of money because things changed and they didn’t.

2: You are so stuck in the amount/sum skill set, when shopping around for a good or service or a bill is due and you don’t see the ‘money’ in your account-you don’t think of other ways to address the bill! You only know how to look at the amount of money due. Trade/barter/modification do not occur to you.

Did you know that 80% of the people who qualify for a modification of their mortgage or credit cards have not applied? Yup. They are stuck looking for the money in the amount/sum skill set.

Did you know about 50% of people who owe taxes because they do not have the money-are actually over paying?

Of course you did-you are a Creative person.



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Have Heart

Sunday, July 4th, 2010

At the end of the hard paved freeway of the intellect begins the soft sandy road of the heart. Intellect loves speed. Addiction to information, events-constantly buzzing -the tornado of the mind is never at rest. The heart loves essence; being-ness and its treasures can only be discovered along the forgiving and supple path of equanimity.

Being creatures of habit, we try the same vehicle, the same wheels on the sandy road to equanimity that functioned on the hard road. No surprise it doesn’t work.

Consider for a moment the personal and global issues at hand in your life. You are stuck, I’m stuck, we are all stuck at one level or another. Consider further the nature of the collective quagmire. If we are so smart we wouldn’t be experiencing financial or ecological crisis. We’d see the inevitability of our folly and make different choices.

We’ve run out of hard freeway. Yet, like stubborn school boys, some of us want to keep racing the same tired vehicles down the hard freeway of the addicted intellect-expecting when hits another dead end to deploy the U-turn as a solution.

Of course that leaves us still on the hard freeway.

Yes, there is a growing collective of individuals who see the harm. The quixotic grab is their response: blame, repent, blame again, and repent some more. It is producing nothing new; it’s a different form of a u-turn.

Same hard freeway of addiction to intellect.

Still there is another collective of individuals who have hit the soft sandy road of equanimity to the heart and have traction. Being called back to the hard freeway is utterly unattractive-most of the time.

Sometimes I feel the hard road and soft road parallel one another in my life. It seems easy to jump back on the freeway, and soon there after I am road kill. I’ve been hoping for some time the roads will widen enough to ease my burden of temptation to make the jump. I fully grasp the roads won’t widen of their own accord. The Spiritual Alchemy is clearly an inside job. It doesn’t stop me from wishing it other wise.

My comfort, and I offer it to you, is in recognizing every truth the intellect can produce is relative. While every Truth my heart illuminates never fails.

I have never loved someone and had bad come from it.

I have hated, been right in the truth of what I hate and have nothing good come from it.

I am not; you are not, the arbiters of what is possible. We are not intellectually capable, as this is the territory of the heart.

In equanimity we see the power of accountability. Our accountability-not another’s. We don’t like the financial crisis, yet we rely for our information upon those who foist the rotted carcass of fear at our feet for our investing.  We deplore the Gulf oil spill, but have in our home the majority of products made from petroleum.

The intellect would have you donate money to help the clean up but not reduce your use of plastic, gas or other petroleum products. The intellect would have you reading ‘the new rules of money’ looking for some secret to exempt you from the capricious winds of the market. Have you noticed how the intellect always has you looking, but never finding a lasting solution?

As we awaken, so do the others around us. As we speak the softness of our heart, its enchanted melody beckons others.

Have heart. In the end, it’s the only Sustainable solution. Have Heart in exactly the situation you face at this moment. Get off the hard addicted road of your intellect. Truly enter the forgiving supple path of the Heart. Equanimity blooms like a flower.  The Arbiter of what is possible commences accountability and requires nothing from you other than you not interfere with the plan.

Take the path of the Heart.

Take the path of the Heart.

Take the path of the Heart.

Redefining the Dream

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010


Just for a moment, go back in your mind ten years.  It’s summer of 2000. What was life like? What were you doing? What was important to you at the time? What was your dream?

Breathe yourself back into this moment.

The dream then-is it the dream today? I don’t have to be clairvoyant to bet you probably not. That is because most of our dreams, conceived in the quagmire of our human experience are not Soul dreams; they are relative dreams with an expiration date proportional to our experience of the time.

Egos will have you notice the dream isn’t everything you thought it’d be. Egos never want to admit the Truth of Relative. Ego’s want good or bad, it happened or it didn’t. It will settle for the muddle of ‘I can’t remember” the dream, ten years was so long ago.

Relative, as a Spiritual Principle involves a perspective outside of the mini me. Mini me is the cobbled together me from your conditioning and indoctrination of your culture and times. Mini me is your past, your memories, the story you tell about the whole shebang of your past-but it isn’t You. The stuff mini me knows is relative. There is nothing absolute or fixed about it. This is how you have a family growing up together in the same house, with the same conditioning and indoctrination, and yet each person has completely different experiences.

Much of what we call dreams are not really dreams. They are desires, wishes, perhaps even obligations we believe we must full-fill that we label as a dream. What I have observed with folks who are living Sustainable, Peaceful, Joyful lives, is the dream emerged from the willingness to walk the path, not from what was planned.

Look to your own experience. The things that work for you, the ones that you are happy with—did you plan those ten years ago? Ten Years ago, what you thought would make you happy-is it happy today?

Looking at my experience, I could see in my life how plans I have had, have all led to something unplanned. The Divine flow of the Universe is always at work and what has slowed or sped the plans along is my thinking I know what the dream looks like and trying to “master-mind” the how.

I caught myself reminiscing one day about a special time in my childrens life-a tender time when they were very young. That was part of a dream. I certainly had moments I was aware I was living the dream-but 25 years ago they were sporadic. Today, I can look at my life and despite the one or two things I would tinker with to suit me better-the Soul dream I realize has found me. Like the flourishing expanding lushness of a garden, it has been in me and around me all along. The blooms changes, with the seasons and that makes the living the dream all the sweeter.

I invite you to free yourself from the constraints of a relative dream. Welcome the Universe like an old and trusted friend to flow deeply into your life by recognizing the Soul dream finds you, as you are present to life, stepping into life each minute.

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Googling Your-Self

Saturday, May 22nd, 2010

Let’s get the important ego stuff out of the way: it wasn’t my fault.

The mishap in a nutshell: somewhere between my guest and her virtual assistant, my guest was a no show for a live radio show. I was mortified. I had questions for the guest, no monologue prepared and felt the need to fill the void. You know, babble. I was further mortified about all the people listening who were getting my babble…. It was awful.

I spent a few hours being very angry. My practice is strong enough that I knew despite the mishap not being my fault, I was not angry with my no-show guest or her assistant. I was angry with myself for not knowing what to do, and babbling.

At first, I assumed she was just running late. I know better than to assume, but I did it anyway. Sigh. So I kept babbling….how long did I babble? 30 minutes. Oh yes, it was that bad. And for that I was so, so, angry with myself. Angry because I wasted my time, other folks time and angry because my babble was trying to cover up the problem—no guest- and therefore tethered me to the problem! Looking back I could have played music for a few minutes while I called the guest. DUH! But as it was, I babbled on and on and on.

But when I sat with the anger for a bit I could see that I was mostly angry that I embarrassed myself with the babble.


And there it was, the epiphany: I was embarrassed at my own behavior.

We spend SO much time trying to avoid shame, embarrassment and humiliation. How often have you thought of some scandal and thought, “how can the guy (or gal) show his face?”

Or watched a performer do really badly and feel embarrassed for them?

Fear of embarrassment is a prison. A prison of our own making.  Our unconscious efforts to avoid the potential of embarrassment prevent us from noticing once we do embarrass our self- we survive the embarrassment! In fact, do it enough times and you thrive!

What other people think of us is so important to our ego minds. Yet, to our Spirit and our Soul a constriction.

So imagine one day you Google yourself and the search reveals: “she was Marvelous-and-didn’t give a scat about being embarrassed.”

Doesn’t that feel like freedom?

My only regret now is that I deleted the recording of my babbling. It would have been a hoot to listen to it and giggle. Oh well, next time.


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Spiritual Road Kill

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010

I want you to imagine for a minute you are crossing the highway. You think it’s ‘all clear’ and as you reach the middle of the road, a huge semi appears out of nowhere. The semi is bearing down upon you.

Would you:

Ask why this is happening to you?

Wonder how you attracted the semi into your life experience?

Moan about how this always happens to you when you cross the road?

Get the opinion of other folks as to your best course of action?

Second-guess your choice to get the f*ck out of the way?

Insane as the above questions appear now, sitting at the comfort of your computer or mobile device it’s how we become Spiritual Road Kill.

Substitute crossing the street for learning to manage your power through choices.  Instead of a semi appearing out of no where, substitute the myriad of forms that come at you in life.

Ego minds get lost in the world of form. The antidote is choice. Choice builds the Muscle of the Authentic Self. At times we don’t like our choices and get lost in the negative. At other moments We LOVE our choices. Past the appearances of the form is our attachment to the form.

Our attachments lead to our suffering.

Lord, I am guilty. I want my books to be #1. Oh, yes my books are fantastic and help people. I managed to get out of the way long enough, to allow Spirit to guide me and get the words on paper. But that isn’t why my ego wants to be number one.

When I ask myself why I want my books to by number one, my answer sucks. Whatever you want in life, your answer sucks too because it’s the same as mine. Egos only have one answer.

My ego wants to be number one because it is conditioned to believe number one is good. Just like your ego. We are further conditioned that having two, and three number ones would be even better. And after that? Being number one for months, years at a time. We have no proof this is true. In fact we have scads of proof that with each desire fulfilled, we form another attachment and create more suffering.

And this is where we really are road kill. Our attachments are hurling themselves down the road of life at a million miles an hour. And the ones we like transfix us and sooner or later they flatten us. Either when we f*ck them up, or when they dissolve because they are unsustainable.

There is nothing in this world that can sustain the Authentic Self. And yet, we’ll try a thousand times in a month to prove the Truth wrong.

When we are on our knees, it’s a relief to know we had things all mixed up. We are willing to give up our illusions when we connect the misery dots. Try to take away the good illusions? Ego mans the battle stations at this thought.

Listen to your own mental chatter to verify this: “but I am fulfilling my purpose!” ego whines. “I like shoes and purses” it wails. “My soul mate completes me,” it cries. “If life isn’t about things, then what is it about?” it forlornly sighs.

Exactly.

If you consider for a moment how many times you were attached to something: a person, a diet, a tribe-and you consider further how at some point what worked for you was the very same thing that no longer works for you: “he’s got such a wonderful sense of humor” becomes “he’s a child and won’t ever grow up” you can begin to see the illusions.

It’s all made up. It’s all a story. The good and the bad. Amidst the ego’s clutching onto the good, we miss the better, the Miracle. In fact we miss the Sea of Miracles. Under all the form, packaged as good or bad is energy. We are meant to be the wise stewards of this Energy in duality. Leaning to govern your own power is your purpose.

It’s amazing how resilient we are. We lie to our self a thousand times a day and yet here we are. Finding happiness anyway. Bumping into Joy here and there.

I am not telling you anything your Authentic Self doesn’t know. Use this self as a compass. Your awareness of the illusions and it forms comes from this True Self.

No you are not being ‘tested’. The Divine Universe is good, presenting us with opportunities (choices) to use our power. Or not. It’s called free-will. Yeh, it’s a bitch.

It is our own resistance to remain fluid and formless – to “flow” as energy, in a universe of energy – that creates the illusion of being tested.
These semi-trailers that seem to come up from “out of nowhere” are actually projections of the fear-based ego mind when it perceives that we’re coming close to something that could, if we master it, accrue our Power.

At the point of form hurling itself down the road, we mostly choose to disconnect from that powerful self. Five-sensory perception clouds the entire windshield of our vision and splat-there we go again.

The resilience miracle IS the Authentic Self-and formless: It uses ALL things for good, even what form intends as ‘distraction’. The Mystics call this non-duality.

The basic structure of duality (the world of form) EVERYTHING has it’s opposite. Up has down, in has out, good has bad, love has fear. The world of form is a spectrum of Polarities–we choose which part of the spectrum we occupy via our thinking, beliefs, attitude and judgments.

In the Formless there is NO opposing. There is only Love.

Illusions are powerful in the effects, but remain causeless. So if fear is ‘real for you’ because you are in the illusion (which let’s face it we mostly are!) then the illusion will have power over you. The semi hurling itself down the road of life will flatten you.

The miracle is ‘non-duality’(the Divine Oneness) knowing that Angels, Higher Power, Source Energy is all there really is, always was and will always be.

Divine Oneness is so powerful it transcends duality-IN YOU. You don’t make the miracle (the shift in perception to see the form has hooked you) you get out of the WAY of the miracle because miracle is your Natural state of Grace. The Sea of Miracles is your True Home.

Until we can perceive the Universe – no separation-only Oneness and include our self as a part of that Oneness, we stand in the road waiting for the next semi, in it’s seemingly infinite forms.

When you feel like cosmic road kill, I’ll remind you that you live in a Cosmic Sea of Miracles. That no matter how badly you have messed up in the world of duality, Oneness or non-duality is present. It’s Present In You.

Let go of your meaning, let go of your story and Ask this Authentic Being to guide you.  Only it can sustain you.

My Peace about everything in life comes from the Cosmic Sea of Miracles. Knowing that how my ego perceives is just an illusion. It’s not personal. It’s just all the ego is capable of-illusions.

*special thanks to @amyoscar for the great input :-)

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