Can small things change your life? Truthfully they can change your perception, which then can change your life-if you let it.
Here is an example: I had a client put their cell phone I a drawer for a week. Now I know what you’re thinking! Barbaric! Impossible!
But let me explain.
The client and I have been working on toxic vampires.You know, those people who intend to suck your energy no matter how many healthy boundaries you put up?
It was clear after months of work that it was time to use the ‘just say no’ approach. My client is co-dependent; she is trying to break old patterns. While there is much progress, she needs more now, quickly, to face this next episode of court, attorney’s and the process of divorce with ease and grace.
Step one was to get a new cell phone. One that he didn’t have the phone number to and would never have.
Step two was to only give the number to people who she really wanted in her new life. (also an epiphany!)
Step three was to put the old phone in the drawer. No more reading 20 texts a day telling her how awful she was for kicking his lying, drinking, cheating, criminal ass out. No more threats, berating, angry out bursts at her while on a binge.
The client had many concerns and objections to putting the phone in a drawer for a week. To all of her objections I said, “well I guess we’ll find out if that is true”.
This is the critical thing about life. Whatever you are trying to do, you can test it. Life is a laboratory. And if you set up your tests correctly, no one is hurt and everyone is blessed.
Day 4 of no cell phone she calls to tell me, “I feel totally different, I feel like I have a huge monkey off my back. I can feel how different my thoughts are. It’s a miracle. I had no idea, this is huge. Big. Life Changing.”
Me, “So I guess it worked then?”
Yes, she had monkey mind, but of course she knew it was monkey mind activity so she didn’t pay attention to it. Yes, she had the fears, but realized they were imagined-as most fears are. Mostly, she had peace. Peace to have coherent thoughts, relief from the constant triggers and space to realize the importance of peace.
This strategy of being responsible for what you let into your sacred space and what is your job to filter out I use in every aspect of life.
It’s a small thing. But if you Practice Spiritual Principle you realize there is no such thing as small. That is the problem with using your ego mind and it’s interpretation of the 5 sensory world as your sole source of data. Small things are really big.
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