We have so much Guidance coming to us from the Universe. Synchronicity, symbolism, archetypes and intuition are languages of the Universe. I teach my clients to “prove it” to their intellectual minds that this Guidance is a fact. Until this fact is accepted, your willingness to listen or pay attention is constrained.
We are connected to all that Is. If we are not feeling it-it’s because we are missing the dialogue. At times we cannot understand the language, or don’t ‘hear’ it, but the effect is the same, we are blocked, circling the same goal or project or circumstance and not feeling good about the lack of progress.
The ego mind would have you ‘persevere’, but Spirit would have you first ask for Guidance.
Being blocked is a kind of separation and isolation. Blockage begins a plethora of ego responses: frustration, desperation, blame, worry, panic, and fear. Certainly these responses are ‘helpful’ in the sense that your neurological feedback is indicating there is a problem. But we get off track and ego has us focus on the effect, not the blockage itself. Like pain from a broken bone- it’s the broken bone that is cause, and the pain the effect.
Treating the symptoms of blockage is a typical ego response and it has a perverse effect. Can you imagine taking pain killers, but leaving the broken bone untreated? Yes, I know it sounds insane-but in truth we all practice this form of insanity with blockage.
I find reasons I am blocked will have to do with timing and flow. I get moving in a direction that is either too soon, or the flow isn’t there, I am meant to be doing something else and yet I persist with my ‘goal’. Then I begin to work on removing the ‘obstacles’—which, BTW, I am very good at-and I don’t stop to ask, ‘where is the flow”? Until of course I am frustrated. Sigh.
Other common forms of blockage I see:
Stuck on what happened
Being literal
Looking for a ‘savior’ as in a human being-not the Spiritual Energy
Doing what another directs you to do, bereft of your intuition
Perception of self: victim, screw-up, nobody
Defending against ‘how things are’
So you can go get more therapy, coaching, attend more workshops, and buy more books-but let me suggest that you surrender your blockage to the Divine Universe and ask that it guide you in all of your seeking. And I also would like to encourage you to realize one thing: your willingness to see the core cause, and your willingness to work at the causal level is all within you.
So I take my willingness to practice and I undo my frustration-I choose again- and ask for the Divine help, “Show me God, the flow”, (it comes in nano-seconds these days). Three other projects completed-with ease and grace. Smile.
I have a client whose language around finding a relationship is, “when I am in a relationship, I will (fill in the blank)”. Much of her life is blocked, because she is not in relationship.
My client is constantly invited to ‘introspective’ events (Universe telling her this is a “alone” time) but until she was finally willing to go with the flow, ask the Universe which form of exploration was a match for her, she stayed blocked. Happily a few weeks ago she came home from a 5-day retreat. Joyfully ecstatic at the epiphanies she had while on retreat.
I know we will be mining those epiphanies for her growth for months, but the first big one? She talks, all the time. Even when her lips are not moving she is talking in her head. While I knew this, because it was hard for me to get a word in edge-wise: no matter how much the Universe conspired to show her this (her cell phone would drop calls all the time—since she has been back from the retreat, not once!) she was missing it.
Then, in accordance with Universal laws, the minute she was willing to quiet down and stop talking, a date was arranged. She went determined to listen, and while she made progress she could see her talking was an unconscious response to the nervousness she felt about ‘silence’. She could see how she drove men away being uncomfortable with silence. Her date even said, “It’s nice to be with a woman who doesn’t talk all the time!”
Oh, the Language of the Divine. Thank you, God for your ever present Guidance.
