Comments on: Family dynamic’s-are they in the past or in the present moment? http://karenmonroy.com/blog/2009/11/27/family-dynamics-are-they-in-the-past-or-in-the-present-moment/ A Blog About Life and Stuff that Happens Tue, 07 Sep 2010 21:25:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Suzanne http://karenmonroy.com/blog/2009/11/27/family-dynamics-are-they-in-the-past-or-in-the-present-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-111 Suzanne Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:42:09 +0000 http://karenmonroy.com/blog/?p=407#comment-111 I have felt like for years no matter how many chages and growing I did it would never be enough for my parents. Yes I was a terrible teenager. I have apologized until I am purple and blue and it still feels like the big pink elephant in the room at family holidays. I realized there is still a sting for me when I think of events. Mostly, my reasons for acting out have never been validated or acknowledged. It was way too much to handle finding my mom sleeping with my uncle when I was 10. The entire "lie" permeated the house and family. I was in constant reaction to this crazy. Thanks for the thoughts. I need to work on letting this go I have felt like for years no matter how many chages and growing I did it would never be enough for my parents. Yes I was a terrible teenager. I have apologized until I am purple and blue and it still feels like the big pink elephant in the room at family holidays.

I realized there is still a sting for me when I think of events. Mostly, my reasons for acting out have never been validated or acknowledged. It was way too much to handle finding my mom sleeping with my uncle when I was 10. The entire “lie” permeated the house and family. I was in constant reaction to this crazy.

Thanks for the thoughts. I need to work on letting this go

]]> By: toni http://karenmonroy.com/blog/2009/11/27/family-dynamics-are-they-in-the-past-or-in-the-present-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-110 toni Sat, 28 Nov 2009 13:59:53 +0000 http://karenmonroy.com/blog/?p=407#comment-110 When I read this I was amazed because I still feel a sting over past events. I replayed in my head what was said that got me triggered and I can see I am reacting to the past. I am still trying to defend myself. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Thank you, this was powerful for me. PS Not that I disagree with what you suggest to say. But I would find it very difficult to say. I put myself in those words and I am not brave enough. Arghhhhhhhhhh again. When I read this I was amazed because I still feel a sting over past events. I replayed in my head what was said that got me triggered and I can see I am reacting to the past. I am still trying to defend myself. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Thank you, this was powerful for me.

PS Not that I disagree with what you suggest to say. But I would find it very difficult to say. I put myself in those words and I am not brave enough. Arghhhhhhhhhh again.

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